Depression & Low Self-Esteem
American Community School
Mrs. Nada AbiSamra
November 27, 2001
1. Outline of Presentation 3
2. Introduction 5
3. Facts 6
4. Analysis 12
5. Conclusion 14
6. References 15
7. Appendix 16
A. I chose this topic because there are many failed relationships which cause many horrible outcomes, like suicide, and I would like to acknowledge these problems and try to improve my relationships with others so I can save them and myself from these attempts.
B. Over the years, people have developed great and meaningful relationships, that may go on for a long time. Some relationships fail, and there is no way to fix them
1. A large percent of people are in good relationships, but sometimes something may go wrong, which damages the relationship.
2. There has been known to be a large number of suicides caused by depression.
3. The depression and low self-esteem people feel is caused mostly by bad relationships.
4. Over the years, people have under-estimated themselves and caused themselves extreme unhappiness and depression, and a failed relationship could have been a reason which led to this.
a. Causes of depression
b. Teenage depression
d. Alcohol and drug abuse
2. Low self-esteem
a. Causes of low self-esteem
3. Failed Relationships
a. Suicide for Love
b. Bad relationships
1. Lebanon has very few suicidal attempts
a. People have good relationships
b. They avoid causes of depression
c. Don’t turn to alcohol and drugs for treatment
2. Retreating to suicide should not be an option for a depressed person
a. This would set an example for children and adolescents
b. They can join with other people to pass through this phase, hence helping many others
c. The number of attempted and succeeded suicides would decrease
3. When depressed, people should directly seek for help
a. They would receive support and help to put their life back together
b. Help to cope with problems that may cause further damage, and lead to extreme depression
c. Resolve all issues that may have cause this depression
1. Depression is a very serious symptom which is caused for many reasons, and one of them is failed relationships which not only cause depression, but also cause low self-esteem.
1. Depressed people may cause to ruin a relationship
2. Depression is dealt with the wrong way
3. People should not try to hold it together and ignore all symptoms that may cause depression.
4. There has been a number of people who have been diagnosed and treated, and so they were healed.
Over the years, people have developed great and meaningful relationships that may go on for a long time. Those relationships fail, and there is no way to fix them. These relationships cause a great deal of grief and pain. Most people try to mend them, but when they fail, their grief builds up into depression. Depression is a very serious issue, and if it is not treated it may lead to a series of danger for that individual, like suicide. When people feel depressed, and have low self-esteem, there is a large chance it might be from unsuccessful relationships. Some people feel, that if a relationship goes wrong, then everything else is wrong, and there is no reason for living, and there is no solution for this grief. These people are wrong, it is never too late to be treated, and healed. Although most may give up on themselves, they will have people encouraging and supporting them, trying to get them through this illness. Although keeping a good and healthy relationship takes a lot of time, it is all worth it. People should not give up too quickly, they should give each other, and the relationship they are building some time. When relationships fail, it means that there is no trust or bond between both sides of that relationship. People have under-estimated themselves and caused themselves extreme unhappiness and depression, and a failed relationship could have been a reason which led to this.
Causes of Depression:
When people are depressed, they need to get treatments. There are many ways of getting treated, like medicine or psychotherapy. When treated by psychotherapy, the feelings are talked about and a professional is there to change all that is contributing to the depression. Doctors give antidepressant medications to also help treat the person out of depression. After a few weeks, the person will feel much better, and less depressed.
Causes of Low self-esteem:
Self-esteem is based on the personal experiences of relationships that have built your life. When you have good healthy relationships, you are building your self-esteem, but when the relationship is bad, and you’ve had negative experiences with relationships, your self-esteem declines. All everyday experiences influence self-esteem. When you are being put down by your family, your self-esteem begins to drop. When being compared to others negatively by teachers, classmates, parents, friends, etc…will decrease self-esteem.
To deal with and get over low self-esteem, the person should ignore what everyone else says about him, and focus about his own opinion and feelings about himself. Acknowledging the weaknesses and strengths, because everybody has both, so they should be accepted. When people believe in themselves, they begin setting goals which they hope to accomplish, and will be working toward achieving them. People need to take pride in themselves and what they so, even though it might not be a great deal. People always get influenced by others; so, to be more self-confident and have a higher level of self-esteem, people need to be surrounded by positive, supporting and happy people.
Suicide for Love:
Many couples are deeply in love, that they would risk anything just to stay together, they would even die together The famous Shakespearean story, “Romeo and Juliet” shows two people madly in love committing suicide to be with the other. Shockingly, “Romeo and Juliet” is not a story, many people have done what those two did, is it romance, I think not. Here is a Romeo and Juliet story. A 15-year-old girl, Angela James, and her boyfriend, a 14 year old, Gary Dean, had planned to commit suicide together. The couple made a suicide pact, and recorded it on a tape machine. The message went as follows, “Mom, Dad, I love you,” Angela said. “Don’t blame Gary for this, it wasn’t all his fault. Never forget my name or who I was.” After this message had been recorded, one of the couple picked up a .38-caliber pistol, and shot themselves. It is unknown what happened next, but police concluded that both died instantly from gunshot wounds to the head. Gary had been known to be a troubled boy, he was involved with white supremacist groups, and he flunked the 7th grade. Both Gary and Angela were worried that they might get separated because while he will still be in middle school, Angela would’ve graduated to high school. Angela had been trying to save Gary from his inner demons, she had known he was troubled when they met; that’s what she had told her mother, Robin Baldridge. Robin became worried that Angela would be involved in his problems, and what worried her more was that Angela has been caught cutting classes with him. Robin confronted Angela, and told her that she didn’t want her to get involved in his troubles, and Angela told her that she was trying to get him out of it. Angela had a conversation with her mother about Gary, and how she is worried about him. This conversation took place the night before, she had taken her life. The day of Angela’s suicide, before she left to school, she kissed her parents and said, “Goodbye, I love you.” That day, Angela and Gary cut classes, went to his house, recorded their good-bye message, and shot themselves. It is a surprise to everyone why Angela wanted to take her life away, she seemed like such a happy person, and nobody could think of a reason why she wanted to die.
Many people are involved in bad relationships, but they can never seem to get out of it, because they get addicted. A bad relationship, is when there is constant frustration, and disagreements. These relationships contain a lot of potential, but this potential is unreachable. The reason why people get addicted to these type of relationships, is because they would be in a relationship with someone who is unattainable. These relationships can demolish self-esteem and block the path to success of those who are improving in their careers or personal lives. When two people are in a bad relationship, they often have nothing in common, and they share little communication and enjoyment of each other. Physical harm and stress may be caused by remaining in a bad relationship. The tension and stress may lead to physical illness, and continuing this way will lead to the use of alcohol or drugs, or even an attempt of suicide. Although a lot of pain and misery comes out of these relationships, people find difficulties to get away from them, because they feel helpless.
Divorce is when
a married couple does not get along anymore, and they start having a bad
relationship, where they barley talk, and mainly argue, but never listen to
each other. They begin feeling unhappy around each other, and so, they both
agree to a divorce. Sometimes
In Lebanon, there is a very small number of suicides. Even though Lebanon is a small country, it still has its problems, but since everybody is on good terms with each other, there is rarely any major personal problems. Depression is avoided because there are a few factors found in the Lebanese way of living that may arouse depression. When people are depressed, or feeling down, they do not usually retreat to alcohol and drugs to solve their problems, they solve it the rational way.
Suicide is not an option:
Suicide is not an answer to depression. It will cause many loved ones grief over the death, and may lead to more depressions. If no suicide was committed, then the depressed people can stick together and help each other out. When healed, they can help others get over their suicidal plans or attempts. This would set good examples for the young and teens to abide by, so they wouldn’t have to go through the same pain.
When depression appears, there should be direct seek for help, so the depression wouldn’t grow and it would make it easier to recover. Treatments will help shape their lives again, and put them back on track. They would feel good about themselves and everything around them. They would be able to avoid all factors that may cause them to become depressed, and so they can live a happy life. Some may have trouble agreeing to seek for help because they may be determined that it is not very serious. Sometimes, the problem may not be serious, but to stay on the safe side, help would be best, because it is always better to be cautious. A depressed individual who does not seek treatments, may cause his depression to build up and lead to something more severe and dangerous. People should always seek help when they are having problems, because if they don’t, then they will have more to deal with.
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When I first received this project, I didn’t think it would take so much work, but when we were told to work on the rough draft of the outline, I thought I would finish it quickly, but when I started, I couldn’t seem to finish, overtime I would be done with something, there was still another thing to work on. I kept reading the information that I had gotten from internet and books, and after a while this subject became very interesting to me, I started learning and reading about things that shocked me, it made me realize what really goes on in our world.
The moment we received our project, my partners and I decided to start planning our meeting dates, so we won’t be behind. We all decided to work our fullest, we would all concentrate and help each other out. Sometimes, if one of us notices an article or book or site related to her partner’s topic, she would give it to her. We are a group and as a group we shall work and succeed at what we’re doing because we all worked equally hard and we all deserve the best.